Question:
My daughter's father and I had been together off and on for five years. We no doubt formed an unhealthy soul tie between us. After a year apart, I had took him back earlier this year and later regretted it. We started becoming sexually intimate, which did not help things. Having guilt about allowing this sin to come into our relationship I resisted his advances and would not do have sexual relations with him. He became distant with me because of this I believe and after a few weeks we had a heated argument and broke up. Only a couple of weeks after we broke up I found out he had already found a new girlfriend. Even though I initiated the breakup I was hurt, because I felt he should have taken spended some time alone to re-evaluate our situation and sort things out. A week after that I also found out that the new girlfriend was pregnant. I am struggling with this because of his current situation. I know he is trying his best to stick with this woman and do the right thing, since she has nowhere else to go. I know he and I will never get back together and don't need to, but that's part of what hurts. What can I do to break this soul tie and finally get some healing from all of this drama? Answer: It's never easy breaking the bound of an intimate relationship when things dont work out especially when you have been sexually intimate. A part of you will always remain with them and a part of them with you. Break ups as these are in a sense just as tragic as divorce because you have already shared so much and even have a daughter together (the fruit of your bond) Breaks ups like these are like a death without a burial because even though the relationship might be over, you are still very much a part of eachother's life, not only because you have a child together but because of the bond that takes place through sexual union, such a bond is very difficult to break, even after years of being separated from someone you were once intimate with, if by chance you happen to cross paths again something reacts with you because of what you have shared in the past. Even though a part of them will always remain with you, even if its just the times and memories you shared together, it is possible to break the soul tie, and it can only be done through prayer. if you can aid the prayer with fasting then that would be even better. Ask God to restore your soul (using Psalm 23:3 as your scripture reference) and heal every emotional hurt and pain you feel and also ask God to give you the strength to release and forgive your daughters father for the wrongs he has done to you because unforgiveness can hinder your prayer and breakthrough. Time is also a great healer, all the negative feelings you might have towards him and the current situation will gradually improve with time, so give yourself plenty of time to heal and try and create a distance between yourself and your daughters father, I know he has to see his daughter and you should never try to stop him from being a part of his daughters life if he wants to be, but at the same time, you need distance from him to be able to heal from the whole thing, out of sight as they say is out of mind, the more you see him the more difficult it will be to get over the whole thing. The keys things again are Prayer, Time and distance. © Copyright LaMedia LTD. 2017. The materials on this website may be copied online, but may not be reproduced in print or any other media without written permission. Комментарии закрыты.
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