I recently dated a very nice guy for close to seven months. We had a wonderful relationship. We both enjoyed each other tremendously. We attend the same church and our church is very adamant about no sex prior to marriage.
That being said, I believed that my guy friend and I shared the same views. One night while sitting just talking my guy friend informs me that he would like to become intimate. I inform him that I would be too embarrassed to return to the church if I did. Not immediately but shortly thereafter he became distant. I continued to ask him why so much distance between us and he informed me that lately he had become busy. I told him I felt he was trying to end the relationship by putting the distance in between us and that he was free to move on. We are no longer seeing each other. (I believe it is because I would not become intimate with him) I miss him so much and I wish to continue to date him but I am waiting on him to make the first move. My gut tells me that he still really likes me (he continues to watch me at church and through internet connections) and I know that I really like him. I don’t want to be the first to call him because I want to know that he was not just dating me for the sex. We have not spoken for 4 months and it feels like forever. Can you give me any advice on how to handle this situation. I have been told to ignore him and he will be back. My Response: Well the first thing I would like to commend you on is that you didn’t allow yourself to fall into temptation, it’s not easy to resist intimacy with someone you really like and I commend you on being obedient to the word of God. I can’t help but feel that this man didn’t have the best of intentions for you. From the way he has responded since you refused his advances, it shows that he was only after one thing to begin with. A good man would not even have put you in that position in the first place, knowing what the word of God says about sex outside of marriage, it shows that he is a man that will compromise and isn’t fully committed to being obedient to Gods way of doing things and that’s not the kind of man you want in your life. I know that at this stage in your life you do want that companionship, but this man just doesn’t sound like the right person for you, his actions shows that he probably isn’t even interested in anything long term and he probably didn’t seek God before approaching you. If he was truly sincere about his intentions for you then he should still want to be with you regardless of whether you are intimate with him or not. The fact that he became distant after you refused him shows that he didn’t approach you because he felt God was leading to have a relationship with you and if a relationship isn’t God ordained it will eventually collapse, you cannot do relationships outside of Gods principles, he created the thing and outside of his principles the thing won’t work. Normally I tell ladies to pray to God to reveal the heart of the man that is pursuing them, so that you know whether he has the right intentions or not, but in this case, you don’t need to pray about it because he has already shown you what was in his heart. You should be thanking God that you didn’t become a prey to him. To be honest with you, I know that you still want a relationship with him because you still like him, but I don’t think he deserves you, you sound like a God fearing woman who wants to do the right thing and a relationship with this man might cause you to eventually compromise your stand. You might be able to resist his sexual advances at first but the chances are after a while it will become harder to resist and you might eventually fall. I encourage you to really pray and seek God for guidance on this. You deserve a good man and I don’t want you to fall into the wrong hands of someone that will use you and then leave you. I pray that God will bring a good man into your life, one that will treat you right and love you unconditionally, one that won’t make you compromise your stand for God, I just don’t think that this particular guy is that man. God Bless ______________________________________________________________________________ This article was originally published on Loveawake free dating site and I publish it with the written permission from the author. If you feel that any content posted here is a violation of your copyright, please write to me at [email protected] or contact Loveawake site to take it down. There has been no commercial exchange by Loveawake for the publication of this article. Комментарии закрыты.
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